Why is it important to be honest with your constructive feedback

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Feedback is the loop of telling someone that you appreciate/dislike their actions. It is a part of our daily professional life. Sometimes we do it unknowingly. Sometimes we do it because it is a part of a process. Sometimes we do it because we care for their growth.

It is great to have an opportunity to tell someone that you loved the way they struck a deal or the discussion on the tech architecture that they proposed. But the other kind of feedback may not be that pleasant where you want to call out weaknesses/negative/areas of improvement/constructive feedback. Such feedback is usually connotated with a negative angle. It invokes fear because it means someone is finding a fault. That does not, in any way, reduce the importance and significance of giving genuine constructive feedback to the other person.

There are many ways when we share feedback with the other person.

Now that we have seen all this, let’s talk about why you REALLY bother about giving someone else feedback. There can be many reasons for this. Some of them are,

1. Helping the person grow

2. Changing an uncomfortable situation

3. Cos the HR asked you to do so — A lot of us make a mistake to give feedback just because we want to get it out of the way or because you were being chased by the HR. However, a feedback session just for the sake of it does not help you and definitely does not help them. In fact, with no honest feedback for them, you are stripping them of the chances they can get to improve themselves and hence grow more in their career.

4. Good chance to find faults — as tempting as it is, you don’t need a feedback session to point out mistakes. If you are not sharing that because you want to see them grow, you may want to revisit if you even want to share it in the first place.

5. You like someone and want to impress them — Compliments are great. But do not confuse them with feedback.

Here are some tips on how you can give share effective constructive feedback

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There are also some things for you to remember when sharing feedback

You see every opinion in this world is built on perspective. I would be short for Frankenstein and tall for someone else. A regular for Jack the Ripper and abnormal for someone else. The spectrum is large. Comments are built based on the world we grew in.

Likewise, when you choose to give someone comments, it is because you care for them or your daily life and most importantly their growth. Don’t share feedback because it is a process. Share it because you think they can do better. If you want to give feedback to someone you don’t like, don’t bother. They probably already know and if they know, they are probably better off not knowing it from someone who does not have their growth in the mind. Remember your opinion of them is in reality your perspective.

Let’s grow and let’s help the others grow.



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‘There are only two ways to live a life. As though everything is magic, or as though nothing is.’ Albert Einstein modified.